I was taught an important lesson today! Although you may ask and say the prayer, position yourself for a yes answer…it may not be THE answer. Maybe the answer is…I have something better.
I was handed my hat today. My ego took a hit. If you’ve read my blog recently, I posted about meeting the,” guy for me”. We had the best conversation and had so much commonalty. He was and is a beautiful man. But today, I saw him again…I was so excited!!!! He was actually ahead of me in the drive-thru line. It felt like this is kismet! Here he is again…by chance!
I yelled, How ya doin? He saw me, waved and then drove away. Ouch!!
He saw me…I know he saw me, but he drove away. Wow…what a blow for my ego! I assumed that he enjoyed our encounter as much as I did, but that’s what happens when you assume. It makes an ass out of you and me!
Well I guess I could be angry, but what purpose would that serve? He doesn’t know me and he doesn’t owe me…anything. His judgment of me is none of my business.
I have to remember the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. They are truly words to live by. Here is a short from his book.
The Four Agreements are:
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
On this day I will remember #2 & #3. I have nothing to do with whatever his opinion of me is and it is none of my business. If I am interested in someone…ask the questions that steer me in the right direction. Don’t be afraid if the answer is no, because it is no big deal!
I do however leave myself open to love and all it’s possibilities. I am grateful that even though I thought our seeing each other again was Kismet…It really was. The Universe and Her Infinite Possibilities has shown me that, ” I HAVE SOMETHING BETTER”. So I am grateful that I was told in a gentle loving way that he is coming…Thank You for that!!!
So…I am still on the hunt for Mr. Big. I know you are out there…Please get your ass over here!!! LOL
Love you guys!